Sunday Reminder #2

Just Keep Walking

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You know, sometimes it’s better to just start walking, rather than to sit and think about it. One of the hardest things to do, is just to start something. Whatever it is, having the courage to step outside of your comfort zone and fully commit to doing it takes a lot out of you.

 

Now once you start, I’m not saying it’s going to get easier, no no no that’s not what I’m saying. What I am saying is that you will start to gain confidence, and a flow and once you start getting in the flow of something you start to become consistent.

 

It always starts with you, we are the one common denominator in our success and failures, in our happiness and sadness, our problems and solutions, our fears and our dreams. 

 

The beautiful thing about one’s journey is that it only requires one person to believe, and one person to start. And that’s you, so just start walking towards that dream, start walking towards that goal, start walking towards that joy, start walking towards that destination.

 

Don’t worry about who’s going to join you, don’t worry about who’s going to walk with you, don’t worry about who’s not going to believe in your vision, don’t worry about who’s going to fall off along the way.

 

Just start walking, the right people when the time is right will walk with you. It’s better to be in company of those who want to see you do well with their actions, rather than those who say so with their words.

 

I’m going to continue walking no matter what,

 

And I hope that you do too.

 

Keep walking.

Sunday Reminder #1

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Every day you wake up, you get a different feeling. At least I know that I do, and sometimes that feeling depending on what we are dealing with, isn’t always the best feeling. Which is okay, nobody feels great every single day that they wake. 

Life has its way of weighing on us more than we would like it too. It’s not always easy to shake that feeling when your focus is elsewhere. It’s not always easy to be positive when the reality in front of us temporarily sucks. Notice I said temporarily.

In scary movies you can always tell when something is going to happen, usually the music gets louder and they zoom in on the angle and then some scary image pops out and surprises you, but generally you should know it’s coming.

But life isn’t always like that, sometimes it doesn’t send warning signs, it just “Pops out” and we are left to deal with it on the go. However, dealing with it as we go is always our best option. Either you deal with it, or it deals with you.

Problems don’t go away, but the experiences that comes with it as you work through the problems will allow you to find a better way to deal with them each time they arise. The one's who can stay calm during the chaos, will outlast it.

Dig deep today, no matter what it is that is in front of you, remind yourself that it is temporary, remind yourself that this too shall pass. When life forces you to dig deep, find a way to dig deeper. 

You can always stretch yourself more than you think, so dig deep and find a way to dig deeper and keep pressing forward.

 

And remember, 

This too, shall pass.

 

-      Akeem Haynes

9 Things That Happen When You Chase Your Purpose

Most people will not chase their true best life simply because of how hard and unknown that territory is. When I was younger I did not understand it but now that I am older and I see and feel the cost of not sticking with your dream a lot more.

 

I started chasing my dream of helping help people with injuries and staying healthy in 2016, and not many good things have happened since then. Back in 2016, I had two jobs, 20k in the bank and my wife and I felt like we could do anything that we wanted. Now the picture is very different because dreams come at a steep cost and not many people like that price tag.  Here are something’s that will happen to you when you start going after what you want in life. 

 

1. Resistance Comes At You From Every Direction

Resistance consists of anything that distracts you from accomplishing what you want to. Sugar is resistance because it slows you down physically and mentally, a lack of hydration is resistance because you don’t have the energy levels to give to your dream. The opposition can come from people who discourage you because they make you doubt yourself. 

The list of things that can slow you down could go on forever. The important thing in dealing with resistance is changing your attitude about it. When I was training as a sprinter, my favorite workouts were resistance workouts. Whether it was running up the hill, pulling a sled, or being in the weight room, resistance would slow me down, but in the end, it helped me to run faster. 

When you get resistance in your life, you have to learn to smile, or it will wear you down. Resistance has one goal, and that is to get you to go the other way. The more you smile, the more you frustrate it.

 

2. You Learn The Truth About Obstacles

The truth about obstacles that they never tell you in school is that you need them. They are not here to hurt you; they are here to destroy the weak ones. The reason that being a doctor is worth it is because it is hard. In high school, it weeds out those with bad grades. In College, it asks you to take organic chemistry. Then it invites you to apply to med school and take the MCAT. If you are one of the few, who can get past that you get the honor of studying for at least four more years to call yourself a Dr. 

The truth about every obstacle is that a portion of people will NOT make it to the next level. Celebrate that! The fewer people that can hold on the more valuable the thing you are chasing becomes. If there is no difficulty, there is no value. The truth about obstacles is that with each one the importance of what you are pursuing increases. 

 

3. You Are Handed Every Reason to Quit

You will feel like some days the world is handing you a briefcase filled with $20,000 to quit. In the short run taking the money feels excellent. The second you quit life goes back to normal. You are an average member of society doing all the things you are supposed to do. Everyone gets off your back. You don't have to feel shame and, and everyone around you can exhale because your life looks the way it should. 

The thing that sucks about taking the money and quitting is that no one would be mad at you for it. If you take it, people would tell you they understand because they would quit too. 

When  Khohealth was starting to heat up, I was feeling great about what we were doing. We were in a better spot financially so I decided to fly to our developer from Denmark so we could work in the same place for once. When he got to the airport, he ended up getting arrested and detained for three weeks. I could not have one conversation with him, and we were at a critical point in what we were doing. Three weeks when you are in the heat of your dream. Everything in me was ready to quit, and you know what, everyone would have understood. 

Take the reasons to quit and throw them in the garbage if the long-term prospects don't look right. Here is what I mean, if someone gives you $20k to resign today, but in 5 years what you are working on will be worth $20 million is it still impressive? Focus on the long term and don't let the short-term stuff get you caught up. 

4. People Like Winners and You Won't Be Considered One For a While

When I made the 2012 Olympics, I learned my favorite lesson of life to date. When everyone found out I made the team, I was a winner, and they wanted to hold my hand. When I found out I was not going to get the opportunity to run, my life went back to how it was before. I don't blame anyone for leaving me hanging though because the world loves winners. Being around winners feels excellent!

When you start chasing your purpose, you will be a loser, and there is almost nothing you can do about it. Inside you will feel good, and you will feel like a winner on most days, but outwardly there will be no proof of success. Success starts with the struggle, but people forget that when they see the progress. The grind is not fun to study, but the rewards of success are. If you are brave enough to chase your dream, be prepared to be treated like a loser. Never believe that lie though! 

5. You Learn to Defend Your Dream

If I tried to take your phone right now, you would be mad, and you would fight for it back. If I stomped on your dream and wanted to kill it, you would probably start doubting yourself. Defending your ideas feels much harder because it is not a tangible thing. It is based on faith, and anything you believe in becomes easy for others to take shots at. 

The best thing you can do is learning to defend your dream. Don't let anyone in your mind without taking their dirty shoes off and getting their feet washed by Jesus himself. Anything less and they are getting smacked for even trying to walk in your head. Your dream is worth protecting with your life because it is yours and it was given to you for a reason. 

6. You Learn How Far You Can Push Yourself

When you think you have done your last rep in a workout, sometimes you are only halfway. To be a great athlete it requires learning that you have so much more left in the tank than you think. 

To achieve the success that made you click this article it requires you to take more punches, survive on less money, take more risk, get laughed at more times than you ever thought you could. You can handle more, and I encourage you to block out the negativity and focus in on your work. Everyone else is going to talk regardless stay focused on the long-term vision.

7. Shame Hits You and You Learn to Deal With

Shame is a horrible thing because it makes you want to stay inside and never leave your house. It is probably a precursor to depression because the feeling sucks. In the midst of chasing my dream, I recently got fired from my job. I did not care about the job, but your ego gets slapped, and shame tries to find its way in your heart. 

I had one day I felt it so heavy I just lied on the ground face down like what is wrong with me? I wish I could be normal and have standard $70k a year aspirations and do as I'm told and settled in on that and take my nice vacation once a year. I swear I wish I could want that but God put something different in me, and some days I hate that he did. 

As I was lying there feeling bad for myself, my daughter climbed on my back and started riding me like a pony which made me start laughing. I immediately was like “Ian get up and stop feeling bad for yourself and get back to work. There is no time for that right now. “

Shame is resistance it wants you to spend time distracted. If shame gets you, it knows that you will never achieve what you want. Forget what people think of you, get on your feet, hold yourself up with good posture and get back to work. Don't stop believing because of the last kick to the stomach. 

8.  Life Becomes a Canvas

When you start chasing your dream, you see glimpses of how life can be. We are given a paintbrush, and we can create life how we want it to look. The problem is resistance says no you can't. Resistance tells you to get your ass to the first job that you can get paid for. Smile and take those paychecks and do everything you can to please your boss. Miss, your kids, lives because you have to work and if you don't do it you are a shame. 

You slowly take your paintbrush, and you wash it off and put it back in the package. You became scared and worn down, and you can only see failure and the consequences of it. You get stuck in it so long that you can no longer remember your paintbrush or that you know how to paint. 

You have the power to create your life. It can work the way you want it to. If you like working in the morning, it can be that way. If you love 3 day weekends that can be every week, but it requires knowing what you want and then making the sacrifice to make it happen. That is it! 

9. Faith is Something Most People Don't Have A Lot Of

People will talk like they have the most faith in the world, but they don't. They have faith as long as they have security. Take security away from a person, and you will see how much faith they have. It is easy to have faith when your bank account looks the way you want it to, and everything is moving in the right direction. Can you have confidence when it feels like everything has been taken away from you? 

It is essential to understand this when you are chasing what you want. Most people want you is to stay within the lines of life that they stayed within. You step outside of those lines and you will get a scolding for it. The reason is due to fear and only fear. Others become scared that your life will not work out. Maybe you will lose your friends, your job, your family, and all your money if you keep working outside of the lines. 

Fear and faith are not friends at all. If you are acting out of fear, you will rarely get what you want. You will get whatever life throws you. When you are operating out of faith, you believe in the vision and dream. 

 

Never Forget - The Dream was given to you, so no one else needs to understand it or get it. Just keep doing you.

 

Ian warner is the founder of KhoHealth, as well as an Olympian and author.

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Motivation Monday

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Last Monday, I was at the gym getting my swole on, right.  And in between sets I was taking my rest and trying to remember what I had in the fridge to eat once I got home. And my trainer (Drew Robertson) came over and we were talking (probably about food) and then another person come over and said, “I just can’t get going on Mondays, do you guys have that problem?”

 

My immediate response:

 

“Nah.”

 

But to be fair, I’ve never really thought about it until he mentioned it.  To me, the hardest day is Friday because your mind can be set on weekend mode and you can clock out Friday morning and end up not doing a single thing productive that day and waste it.  (I had a teammate in college who was the master of this.  Dude would clock out Thursday night!)

 

It can be dangerous because the weekend can slow up your momentum.

 

Like the man above, maybe Mondays are tough for you as well. So here are a few Monday Motivation tips that will hopefully improve your Mondays. (By the way, how many is a few? Because the other day I asked my little sister for a few of her skittles and she gave me like 2.  Did I get disrespected?)

 

But any who, let’s get into it.

 

 

 

Monday Motivation Tip #1

 The moment you wake up, try saying three things you are grateful for.  Then, after you say them out loud, write them down on a piece of paper and let it sit in a space where you can see it.  Then, before you head out the door, grab the paper and say them out loud one more time.  Doesn’t matter what day it is, no day will ever be the same.  So, appreciate the day that you have and make the most of it.  Don’t take it for granted. 

Monday Motivation Tip #2

Wake up on time and start with a good breakfast.  Don’t rush the morning.  Statistics show that in 2011 alone, 31 million people skipped breakfast.  I’m not the biggest breakfast person myself, but it does make a difference and you can feel it.  When you fuel your body with quality food, your mood will change throughout the day. People out here be ogre-ish when they don’t eat.   Don’t be an ogre anymore. 

Monday Motivation Tip #3

Start your day with something positive.  Listen to a podcast, listen to a talk, watch an inspirational video, listen to your favourite song, read a book, do something that pours into yourself.  Once you walk through the door, you can’t control what happens.  Along the way, something might disrupt your day, so you need to fill yourself up with so much positivity that if you do get disrupted, you’re not even sweating because you have all this positivity in you.

Monday Motivation Tip #4

Don’t check your phone first thing when you wake up.  Don’t even do it. Because once you do, you will be hooked to it.  And I’m telling you, the worst thing you can do for yourself when you wake up, is invest and look at somebody else’s life when you haven’t invested in your own life. Put the phone away and just take 20 minutes for yourself.

Monday Motivation Tip #5  

Why are you getting up?  No for real, ask yourself that.  The other day I woke up, glanced over at my watch on the dresser, and the time read 5:15am. The next time I glanced over, it said 5:50am. You might be asking, “What were you doing for 35 minutes?”

(Insert deep answer below)

 

I was looking at my ceiling….

 

I was like, “Man, I’m not feeling today.  This is stupid bruh. I should probably just throw in the towel and stop investing in myself like this. What’s the point?” 

And I remember those things going through my head, and then in walks my little sister, half asleep stumbling into the walls.  She came over and gave me a hug and said, “Good morning Akeem”.

 Immediately I told myself to give it a rest.  Suck it up and let’s conquer the day.

 Life has a way of reminding us the many reasons why we need to push through. 

 

Monday Motivation Tip #6

Whether you like Monday or you don’t, it’s still going to come.  It’s always going to be a day that is part of the week.  While you might wake up on Monday upset and mad at the world, Monday is all smiles and sunny and ready to go.  If your competitive like I know you are, you won’t let Monday shine brighter than you. Even if you don’t like Monday, you better compete with it and dominate the day so later that night you can say, “Monday, how does coming in second feel? ;)”

Monday Motivation Tip #7

Monday is the tone-setter.  If you start the week off in a bad mood, chances are Tuesday is going to be a write off as well, and unless your writing off your taxes, skipping a day doesn’t do your life any justice.  Momentum and energy is a powerful thing.  Set the tone early in the week.  Your days are more meaningful when you are intentional with each day.

Monday Motivation Tip # 8

Spread encouragement.  Start a group chat with some of your friends every Monday, and make it a habit of putting positivity in there.  Matter of fact, make that a requirement in order to enter the group chat. Your environment will change you long before you can change your environment. If your environment is already booming with positivity, it’s hard to be negative. Even the Grinch celebrated Christmas when he changed his environment (even if it was to ruin it initially).


Motivation doesn’t last so you need to find different ways to stay motivated. 

You may have heard about that cliché saying:

Don’t count the days, make the days count.”

Cliché statements are often the honest truths.  

 


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If you have a Monday Motivation routine, leave a comment below and let me know. 

 

 

 

-      Akeem Haynes

10 Things They Don’t Tell You Before You Graduate (University Addition)

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The other day, I went for a walk to my usual spot.  I call it my “thinking spot.”  When I got there, I sat on my bench and after five minutes started laughing. 

 

Now, before you call me crazy, hear me out!

 

 I was laughing because I was listening to a podcast and heard the individual say, “The moment you graduate, everything will fall into place because you will have a degree.”

 

HA! I’m sure you’re laughing too.  Or you’re just waiting for me to get to the point.

 

This point is this- that statement couldn’t be further from the truth!  A degree, in my opinion, is like a passport.  It has the ability to open different doors.  However, it doesn’t mean those doors will ever be opened.  And if they do open, you better seize the opportunity quickly! 

 

I graduated from The University of Alabama a semester early, and one thing that stuck out to me from my whole university experience was when my English professor said:

 

“You will learn more about life experiencing stuff than you will reading this English textbook.”

 

After my trip down memory road at my “thinking spot,” I made my way home.  When I got inside, I picked up my phone and hit my guy Ian.  I asked if he wanted to jump on this post with me.

 

I’ve always said I wish someone would have told me about university before I got there.  I would have done my best to take advantage of certain things a little bit better.

 

For those of you reading this who are about to enter that chapter in your life, I hope you write these down and keep them in mind...

 

Let’s begin.

 

 

 

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1). Saving Is More Important Than Earning

 

When you graduate college, the only thing on your mind is making that paper for the first time. What they don't tell you is that it doesn’t matter how much you earn, it matters how much you save.  Getting into the habit of saving is not about being rich. Saving money keeps you sane.  It grows your self-control.  And it allows you to have money ready for when opportunity strikes.

 

If you get a $20k raise, and you spend $20k more, you end up with more stuff but your bank account looks the same way. The key is when you start increasing your income, try and live like you are still a broke college student for as long as you can.  Doing this will allow you to build up a financial cushion.  And you can make much better choices with $20k sitting in the bank compared to having nothing.

 

 

2). Get Around Like-Minded People

 

It’s imperative that you get around like-minded people as early as you can. University is the one place where the majority of people get into debt, but very few people get out of that debt.  So, you might as well get around some people who actually want to pay off that debt. Why? Well because those people probably have some type of plan.  Those are the people that are going to make sure you think outside of the box, and they will start by holding you accountable.

 

It is hard to make friends once you graduate from college.  Your whole life can easily be spent with coworkers or your family.  You have to make an effort to build with like-minded people to have in-depth discussions with. These are the people who will challenge you to be better than what you currently are.  It is not easy to find people who challenge you because when most people see you messing up, they are happy about it.   They now have a chance to step their game up. When you are trying to advance your way of thinking, you need to be around people who think like you do in order to stay sane.

 

3). You Have To Do More Than What You Are Paid T0 Do

 

Do more than you are paid to do even when it hurts and it seems that life is unfair. Doing more than what you are paid to do is how you ensure you are always needed and practically irreplaceable.  There are not many people who will follow this.  Look for more opportunities to help and to give. If you want to receive more, it is imperative that you give more.  If you only look to do what your job title says and never anything more, you make yourself dispensable.

 

Do the extra.  When you do what others won’t do, you will get more than they get.  I’m not even talking about finances.  I’m talking about creating a lifestyle and building a character that gets noticed as soon as you walk in the room.  I think the one thing people forget is that you make money.  Don’t let the money make you.  When you make yourself non-disposable, you’ll always make money.

 

4). Knowing What You Want Matters More Than Working Hard

 

It does not matter how hard you work if you have no direction.  Before you do anything else, you have to decide exactly what you want from life.  What do you want, when do you want it, why do you want it and what is your plan to go and get it?

 

Doing this is like setting the destination in your GPS.  If you don't set a destination, how can you know the path to where you are going? School teaches us to drift.  It makes many people feel like it is okay to not have a plan.  It’s why people going to college “undecided” is perfectly fine. The message is, “Wake up and have no idea what you want to do!”  That’s fine as long as you can pay that $28,000 college bill :).  

 

“What if I don’t know what I want?”

 

Let me slide on this one Ian.

 

You know what you want.  Whether you say it out loud and believe it is a different thing. Everyone has an idea of what they would like their life to look like. For example, the moment you say,  “I want...” you have an idea.  You just aren’t being intentional with the description of that idea.  And If you don’t know the description and how you can make that idea manifest, you’ll get lost in-between your other ideas.  And you’ll just continue to answer.  “I don’t know”.  You do know.  Just take a little more time and be descriptive.  Write down your own personal goal dots, and then connect them.  (See what I did there?  You know, connect the dots?  Like the game?)

 

5). That Childhood Imagination Is The Worst Thing You Can Let Go Of

 

The computer I am typing on, my iPhone, your favorite app are all things that came from the imagination.  Someone had an idea that they took action on to create all of these products.  When you’re in school, you are taught there is an absolute path you must follow.  The people who are remembered in history never follow the same way. They walk to the beat of their own drum, letting their imagination and “out of the box” thinking lead them.

 

I feel you bro, but it’s Android phone and Mac computer over here! But listen, if you don’t realize the endless possibilities of what the mind can create, you aren’t dreaming enough. People have a way of downsizing your dreams, so don’t even sweat that.  They don’t see what you see, or believe what you believe.  People would rather tell you what you can’t do and belittle your ideas and aspirations rather than give you hope so when you fall the first few times, you’ll have the courage to get back up. So, if you’re reading this today, and you have some big aspirations, I believe in your idea. Whether you succeed or fail is up to God.  That’s his realm.  But if you don’t ever try and give your dream oxygen, it’ll never live.

 

6). You Have T0 Believe In You First

 

If you do not believe in you, no one else is going to.  Your new boss is not going to give you pep talks about how he thinks you can do it. Disney Land is Disney Land, and real life is real life.  Don't get them confused.  When you believe in yourself and put in massive action, you’ll produce results over time and others will slowly begin to understand.

 

You have to believe you are already at the table before you even sit down.  Know that you belong anywhere you so choose to be.  If you don’t think your worthy of something, you’ll never fully grasp it. 

 

7). You Have To Start From Where You Are

 

Imagination is great, BUT you still need to be real with yourself about where you are today.  Social media has made some people delusional because it’s cooler to act successful than it is to actually obtain success.  Look yourself in the mirror and understand that where you are today is the result of the choices you made yesterday.  If you don't like where you are then make some different decisions.  You can build an accurate roadmap to greatness if you don't have your current destination correct.

 

Everything that you do, or don’t do, has a positive or negative reaction. Look, I know your tired some days, but isn’t it worth being tired from giving everything you have towards progressing further?

 

8). Experience, Experience, Experience

 

This will probably be something you hear a lot about. 

“You’re not experienced enough” 

or 

“You lack experience”

 

It’s funny, you can go to school for a billion years and when you graduate, certain companies won’t even give you that “experience” you need in order to succeed in that particular field.  How do you gain experience?  Well, be aware and be open to what’s around you wherever you are.  Create your own experiences.  Things have evolved so much.  Nowadays, you can search and find some type of contact information to send an email to the companies and people you want to be involved with. The worst thing they can say is, “No.”  But if they are willing to have you there, you’ll be able to gain that experience.  Don’t wait until you graduate to find out you’re not qualified. Leave no stone unturned.  And if they won’t give you the experience, try to create it.

 

 

9). It’s better To Be Productive Than To Be Busy

 

According to everyone you meet, especially after you graduate, they are “busy.” “Extremely busy” at that.  But you know what I’ve realized?  Just because you’re busy doesn’t mean you’re being productive.  Sometimes people confuse busyness with clutter. It’s not the hours you put in, but rather what you put in those hours.  You could be busy on paper for 15 hours straight.  But of those 15 hours, if only 4 of them were productive, you just wasted 11 hours.  People who are productive and efficient with the time they have will always overshadow those who grind all day.  Be careful not to confuse the two.  Being busy doesn’t always mean progress.

 

10).Work Harder On Yourself Than At Your Job

 

School is always teaching you to work hard.  The message engrained in your brain is that if you work hard at your job, great things will happen.  It reminds of the story of the two men who went to cut down trees.  One worked his butt off sawing down the trees for six hours.  The other man spent one hour sharpening his saw, and then spent only two hours cutting down the trees.

 

When you decide to work on yourself, you are like the person who sharpened his saw first.  By learning about yourself, reading, growing, forming positive habits, and a building a solid character, you give yourself better ingredients to succeed with.

 

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I hope this has helped in one way or another.

 

Use your time wisely.   You will not be able to do everything, but you can spend time doing and investing in the right things.  And start by investing in yourself.

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Life experiences are what make our journey so much more meaningful.

 

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- Akeem

Thirty Shades Of Truths

 

 

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The biggest break is the one you will give yourself by choosing to believe in your vision, in what you love, and in the gifts you have to offer the waiting world.
— Leslie Odem Jr

 

I wrote the title for this post on my computer on Thursday, and didn't finish it until Sunday morning. For some reason my brain didn't want me to be great. Or perhaps, I just had a hard time quieting my mind throughout the past few days. Yeah thats probably it still.

My one sole wish for those reading this, would be that you sit with these truths above and let one of them speak to you. As I wrote them, a few of them re-spoke to me and I hope they do the same to you.

But nonetheless,

 

With 30 things to read, there really is no need for too big of an intro.

 

So, let’s get into it. 

 

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 1). Focus on what's in front of you. We are humans, it is in our nature to try and control everything. But in reality, we control a small portion of our everyday lives. But we have to pour our energy into the things we can control. Only when we can do that, do we really start to see a shift in our progression. 

2). What’s for you, will be for you. Sometimes when we want something to happen for us so bad, and no matter how much we try to make it happen, for some reason it doesn’t come together. That’s not be coincidence, when something is for you the resistance will be minimal. 

3). True strength comes from realizing that you need help. Though you can do most things alone, it's hard to do everything alone. Everyone needs a little help on their way up.

4). There is a title for every chapter in your book of life. Ask yourself today which chapter you on are. And ask yourself, what comes next?

5). Distractions can come from all angles. But you have to guard your focus. Don’t let small inconsistencies disrupt your path and ultimately your growth.

6). It doesn’t matter what it is. If you aren’t confident about what you can do and achieve you’ll probably never achieve it. Be your biggest supporter and put the work in and continue pushing. Confidence is a powerful thing.

7). You are going to fail. But always remind yourself, that no single failure defines you as a failure. You only fail when you quit. Because when you quit you stop trying to get better and improve on what didn’t go right. Don’t worry about failing, use your failure as a guide to what work, and what didn’t work. Failure is inevitable, what you do next is optional.

8). Long before your dreams and aspirations come to life, you have to have a stubborn belief that you can get the things you want despite your circumstances.

9). Sometimes you have to be willing to make the hard decisions for the greater good. Not Because you always want to, but you know you need to.

10). Be selective in your battles. Oftentimes peace is better than always being right. You simply don’t need to attend every argument you’re invited too.

11). Don’t worry about being seen. Focus on progressing and growing in each aspect of your life. The work you do in the dark will one day come to the light.

12). Life’s test are unexpected and unpredictable. You’ll never fully be ready for it. But you made it this far for reason. Perhaps, your more prepared than you think.

13). No matter what happens in life, you’ve got to be able to believe, “This too shall pass,” and that if you keep persisting, you’ll find a way through.

14). Sometimes you have to take a step back and look at other options. You can’t solve a puzzle trying to force the pieces where they don’t fit.

15). You don’t have to have everything completely figured out to move forward. Somethings you will have to adjust on the go as you take that next step forward.

16). Know your circle. Relationships should help you grow, elevate you, challenge you, empower you, support you and be honest with you. If they aren’t helping you become a better person, then you need to make some serious decisions. You are the sum total of the people you surround yourself with, that’s not just a cliché statement, that’s an honest life truth. 

17). Learn to say no. If you always say yes, you will always be taken for granted. Simple as that.

18).  You attract what you want into your life. The way you carry yourself will always reveal how you want people to treat you. It’s never what people call you, it’s what you answer to.

19). Let go of the story why you haven’t accomplished certain things. You have to be honest with yourself about where you are right now. And that can be discouraging, I get it completely, but instead of complaining, start figuring out how you can get back on track. There is more than one path to get to your destination, you just have to complain less, and start doing more.

20). “They gave up on me” – I get it. But you know what, you are the one constant between trying to pursue a dream, and not even trying. And the beautiful thing about that, is that it only requires one person to believe. And that’s you. So, don’t get discouraged when people don’t see your vision, you will attract the ones that do as you continue pursuing your vision. Focus on proving yourself right, and less on proving them wrong.

21). “Woe is me” – If you always play the victim, you will only be seen as that. Nobody cares about what’s happened to you, they might be slightly concerned for a moment or so, but then life goes on. So, you’ve got to get up and use your pain to your advantage. Because after a while you are going to have to ask yourself, “what now?”. 

22). Be whole by yourself. Don’t give your happiness to anyone. That’s got to come from within, it’s got to come from inside of you. If you aren’t happy with yourself, every relationship you are involved in will not get a fair shot at flourishing. You have to be right within yourself, to add external value to others.

23). You are good at more than one thing. Don’t let your self-worth be consumed by a sport, or a job or one specific thing. Too many get into this hole, and the deeper you get into it, when you try and make a transition you become lost in who you were, instead of remembering who you are. Take the time to figure and nurture your many talents and gifts. We all have them, but you have to search and nurture them.

24). Own everything. Own it. Whenever something happens, before you look out, look within. Too many post the blame on other people and other things before they consider the fact that they might be the problem. 

25). Sometimes God needs you to live a scripture, and not preach one. Listen, sometimes you are going to have to go through some things that you don’t deserve to go through. Sometimes you’re going to feel like God skips your prayers. Sometimes you’re going to be put through more tests than others. Sometimes he needs you to stretch your faith further than you ever thought you could, so someone who might be trapped in the dark, can see the light through you and the way you carry yourself during your hardships.   

26). Don’t neglect your body. Exercise. Go for a walk. Take care of yourself. Eat the right foods, drink enough water, get the right nutrients in your body. Just because it makes your mind and soul feel good, doesn’t mean it’s what’s best for your body. Think moderation, not indulgence (all my desert lovers out there, including myself). 

27). The more you feed your mind the deeper the transformation will be. Just because you can relate to the weakness, doesn’t mean you have to adopt the mindset.

28). Be proud of who you are. No one can do you better than you. Be proud of all your accomplishments. Never settle for less than what you’ve worked for. You don’t have to be perfect, but you always have to give your best efforts. You owe that to yourself.

29). No matter how small you start, always dream big. There is nothing out of reach if you're willing to put in the work consistently, stay patient and make some sacrifices for it. Success is a decision, not a gift.

30). No matter what, you must keep going.  Even when it doesn’t seem like there is a way through, you must keep going and find that way. I recently read “A man’s search for meaning” by Victor Frankl. He said “A man can overcome anything, if he isn’t asked how”

 

 

I hope that one of those spoke to you in a way that makes you think. 

 

 

Your Turn…

 

In the comment section, I’d love to hear some of your own life truths that have helped you, or if you would like to email me them personally, I’d really like to hear some of them.

 

Akeeminspires@gmail.com

 

- Akeem

 

Four Things To Remember When Life Gets Tough

Life is unpredictable. 

 

You just never know how quickly the tide will turn and change the trajectory of where you were going.  

 

But at the same time, the things we go through are meant to create a stronger and much improved version of ourselves.

 

To never struggle is to never grow.

 


 Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding.  In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.

— -Proverbs: 3:5-6

 

 

1)      Find Your Path

 

Be honest with yourself.  And that can mean many things and go many different ways.  But you have to be honest with where you are right now. Speaking from experience, this can be extremely eye-opening and discouraging. 

 

When I was 16, I wrote down about 10 things I wanted to accomplish by a certain age.  I would look at that paper almost every day, and to this day, out of those 10 things, I’ve achieved 2 of them.  A mere 20 percent!  Nevertheless, I’ve accomplished some things that I didn’t expect to.

 

Sometimes the initial path of our journey gets redirected to where we need to go, not where we want to go. 

 

What does that mean?

 

Well, it means that just because you aren’t where you want to be doesn’t mean you won’t end up back on the initial path you started. 

 

 

Ok, let me break it down mathematically really quickly.

1+3 = 4

2+2 = 4

0+4= 4

6-2 = 4

 

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There is more than one way to find the answer.  There are many different ways to get to where you want to go.  But if you don’t develop the skills you need along the way and learn how to get back on that path, you will continue to lose sight of the way.
— Akeem Haynes

 

 

 There is more than one way to find the answer.  There are many different ways to get to where you want to go.  But if you don’t develop the skills you need along the way and learn how to get back on that path, you will continue to lose sight of the way.

 

 

 

 

Embrace where you are.  Stay the course.  Try not to get discouraged.  Develop what you need to on the path you are on.

You will find your way back.  Just don’t stop walking.

 

 

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 2) Watch Your Self-Talk

 

No, for real.  You’ve got to watch the things you say to yourself on an everyday basis. Especially when it gets tough. There is no way you will make it out of the hole if you keep digging it deeper.  Adjust what you say.  Don’t play with your words.

 

I never agreed with the saying, “Sticks and stones may break your bones, but words will never hurt you.”  That’s a lie. Words are powerful.  Because eventually, if you tell yourself something enough times, you will start to believe it, and your words will slowly begin to manifest physically.

 

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If you are going through a rough patch, tell yourself you’re going through a transition stage and you’re almost finished.  If you’re going through some financial stress, just say you’re in between funds right now and you’re about to be financially stable.  If you had a bad day, remind yourself that there really are no bad days, just character-building days.
— Akeem Haynes

 

 

If you are going through a rough patch, tell yourself you’re going through a transition stage and you’re almost finished.  If you’re going through some financial stress, just say you’re in between funds right now and you’re about to be financially stable.  If you had a bad day, remind yourself that there really are no bad days, just character-building days.

 

Change the things you say to yourself.   Speak life into yourself.  If you want to see change, you have to not only work for it physically, but you’ve got to put it out there in the universe.  

 

 

 

Words by themselves don’t hurt us.  Only when we give them meaning do they gain their power.

 

Watch what you say.

 

 

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3) Trust Your Preparation To Pass The Test

 

When I was in school, up until about my last year in university, I would do well on the assignments and homework and projects.  But as soon as a test, mid-term or final exam came around, I wouldn’t do too well.  Not all the time, but for the most part, I just didn’t do well.

 

And the more I think about it now, straight up, I just didn’t prepare as well as I could have.  I’m not saying I didn’t study or take it seriously.  I just didn’t prepare as well as the other students who got the high scores. And because I didn’t feel confident in my preparation, my brain would be all over the place, and I’d second guess myself every time.

 

But I learned from that experience, and I now apply that lesson in my everyday life.

 

You can’t control everything, but no one can take away how hard you practice and the effort you put toward your craft and developing your all-around skillsets.

 

And when you feel like you’re ready for a breakthrough, that is when you will be tested to see if you are going to revert back to your old ways.

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When you haven’t prepared and prepped yourself for what’s to come, you may pass the assignments, but you’ll never pass the most important tests.
— Akeem Haynes

 

 

When you haven’t prepared and prepped yourself for what’s to come, you may pass the assignments, but you’ll never pass the most important tests.

  

 

 

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4). Take The Good With The Bad

 

This is such a powerful statement.  You are still here.  You are still here.  YOU are still here. You are here for a reason, a purpose, a specific reason that God has intended for you.

 

Despite everything that you’ve been through, and might be going through at this moment, you are still here. That’s not by accident.  That’s not by chance.  Sometimes when we go through things, it’s not for us.  It’s to show someone watching that they can get through their own situation too.  Sometimes God doesn’t need us to preach a miracle.  He needs us to live in the present as an example of one.

 

Nothing goes unnoticed.   Sometimes we need to fall down in the fight of life so we can learn how to get back up on our feet.  That breakthrough you might be looking for is probably taking its sweet time, and I mean really taking its sweet time.  But that’s the reason you’ll appreciate it so much more when it does come.

 

Without the darkness, we wouldn’t appreciate the light as much.

 

If it didn’t rain, we wouldn’t be able to see the rainbow.

 

If we didn’t go through the bad, we wouldn’t truly appreciate the good. 

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Life has a way of findings its balance. Things can change at one glance. Your moment will come when you least expect it. But what you do while you wait will make the biggest difference, always.
— Akeem Haynes

 

 

Life has a way of findings its balance.  Things can change at one glance.  Your moment will come when you least expect it.  But what you do while you wait will make the biggest difference, always. 

 

 

 

Grow through it, you made it this far, don't stop progressing now. You've came to far. You've got this.

Stick with it. Push through.

- Akeem

The Lessons I've Learned From The Airport

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Airport Layover

 I dislike travelling as a whole. I enjoy new cities, and scenery, and culture and different atmospheres I enjoy that part, but I dislike actually flying, long road trips. All of that, its super quiet for me on that aspect.

Like if your trying to go on a road trip and you need someone to go, I’m probably not the best person to ask. However, I’ll come along, providing we are loaded up with snacks.

 

Matter of a fact I’m writing this at the airport as I’m waiting for my connecting flight.

 

Kind of ironic honestly, simply because of how much it relates to being patient.

 

 

 


Delayed

 

I’ve always somehow been portrayed as this patient person. And Truth is, by nature, I’m extremely impatient. I don’t like to wait. I’m a very punctual person, and the value of time is something I try not to waste or take for granted.  

 

But what happens when you have no choice but to be patient? 

 

I remember when I was coming back home during Christmas time when I was at school in Kansas, and on this particular trip my flight looked like this 

 

 Wichita to Houston, Houston to Edmonton, Edmonton to Calgary.

 

On paper I guess it doesn’t look that bad? however, I had a 4-hour layover in Edmonton, and the flight from Edmonton to Calgary was maybe 30 minutes once you’re up in the air.

 

I was beyond annoyed, tired, and all the above.

 

But It taught me a valuable lesson that day,

You don’t know how patient you can be, until being patient is all you can be.
— Akeem Haynes

 


 

 

Taxing

 

In 2016, on the way to the Olympic Games in Rio De Janeiro, if memory serves me justice, I believe we had a night flight. After boarding the flight and putting my bags up. I sat in my seat and waited for the magical words. “Ladies and gentlemen, we are ready for take-off”

 

 I was already tired from the week of training and travelling back from London earlier in the week. So that made everything that much sweeter, I had everything planned out in my head. I was going to kick back and watch a couple movies, and let the movies tire out my eyes and I’ll be in deep REM sleep and when I wake up I’ll get there.

 

*Doses off*

 

10 minutes later….

 

I opened my eyes and realized I was still on the dang runaway!

 

My trip was ruined, I ended up staying up half the 9-hour flight. 

 

But in the midst of the stress, there was a lesson to be learned from it

 

Don’t get too ahead of yourself. 

 

 

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Sky High

 

This is the one part you have no control over whatsoever. Literally, all you can do is sit and occupy your time and let the pilots and steward & Stewardess do their job.

 

There’s always that stage in life, where it seems like you’re just going through the motions. You’re working towards something, but it can often feel redundant. Sometimes it can feel like you’re not making any progress. And as humans, we strive off progress, that’s what keeps us going.

 

When you’re in the air flying, and you have a long flight, it doesn’t feel like you’re moving or really covering any ground, until you get to your destination and you realize is was the complete opposite.

 

Here’s the lesson here:

 

It’s not how many hours you put into what you do, but rather what you put in those hours.

 

 


Landing

 

“Ladies and Gentlemen, Prepare for landing”

 

Those are sacred words when it comes to flying. It means the trip is almost done! 

 

I wish there was that announcement from the good Lord above that told us that our time was about to come. I imagine mine would go something like this.

 

“Aye akeem, just stay strong for two more weeks and then it’s your time my guy! the next week and a half I got to make tough, but don’t worry, you’re good, stay strong. Two weeks!”

 

See, that way I’m prepared. I know in exactly, two weeks I’ll be good!

 

But when you’re sitting in the sky on the plane, you don’t control the landing, you just got to have faith that you’ll get to the ground safely.

 

But you know what, 

sometimes the unknown is our strongest weapon. You don’t know what you don’t know, so you’ll just have to trust what you do and know that you are prepared for what’s to come.
— Akeem Haynes

 

 

 

-      Akeem

Always Bet On Yourself

I think a lot of people believe in themselves, but very few people are willing to risk everything, and put everything on themselves.
— Akeem Haynes
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It’s one thing to believe in yourself, but it’s another thing to bet on yourself. One is talk, and the other is the real deal. We’ve all heard that cliché statement “Put your money, where your mouth is.” In other terms, if you’re really about it, then be about it.

 

 

I think a lot of people believe in themselves, but very few people are willing to risk everything, put everything on themselves. 

 


Here’s the difference:

When you bet on you, you truly invest in yourself. Your faith is fortified because you found a way to see the light in the darkness. You know what you’re capable of because of the work and effort you put into everything you do. You don’t sweat what people say, because you live your truth. You don’t worry who’s against you, because God is with you.

 

You don’t worry about what you can’t control, because you’ve controlled your preparation. You don’t worry about falling, because you’ve fell so much you’ve learned how to get back up.

 

There’s a difference, and that difference, is that no matter who is against you, no matter the odds, no matter the logic, no matter how hard it can be and will get, you are still willing to bet on yourself to overcome it and find a way to progress forward with a positive attitude.


If you are reading this today, Always be willing to bet on yourself, through the highs and more importantly the low’s because no matter what project you are working on, you will always be your greatest investment and lifelong project.

Bet on you.

 

 

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-Akeem

 

 

 

The Past 5 Months

On the other side of fear are many things.  But one of the biggest drivers that always stops me from being afraid is this thing called regret.
— Akeem Haynes

Wait, what month is it?

 

It’s crazy to see how quickly 2018 has come. But then again, not really.  Time really does fly. But we always have to take a moment to enjoy what’s in front of us and how we’ve overcome some of the things that are now behind us. 

 

I've been getting a lot of questions over the past few months, regarding my writing and inconsistent blog posts and also when the next book is coming out, and of course football.

Why the hiatus?

 

And the answer is… (Insert Deep Answer Below)

 

I just have a lot going on right now. Ha!

 

And also, I’ve been doing different things that require a lot of my focus.

 

I think there is a big difference between being productive and being busy. I am busy, but I am also productive.  We often justify putting off the things we don’t want to do but know we need to do by saying we are “too busy.”  Oftentimes, being “too busy” is just an excuse.

 

(Who is this guy trying to tell me stuff, huh?)

 

More blog posts are coming, and so is the next book.

 

Question 2! (Or rather an opinion/comment I’ve been receiving)

 

“Why would you stop running track, when you’ve had so much success, to pursue football? You haven’t played in 8 years.  You won’t be very good.”

 

I guess the best way to answer this question is, “why not?” - For many, it was a surprise. To the people who really know me, it was just a matter of time.

 

Are the odds against me?

 

Of course.

 

Is it crazy?

 

Maybe.

 

Is it going to work out?

 

Maybe?

 

Is it going to be worth it?

 

Without a doubt.

 

Football has always been a dream of mine.  And I’ve always been a dream chaser.  I think most people don’t understand that certain opportunities aren’t always going to be there. I’m not getting any younger.  My body isn’t always going to be that of a 26-year-old. 

 

I can eat a pint of ice cream and my body will recover in 24hrs. (strawberry cheesecake in case you’re wondering)

 

I won’t be able to bounce back like that when I retire from sports. 

 

I am in the peak of my sports career. 

And here’s the other thing.

 

I don’t fear pursing football and failing at it. 

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I fear not pursing it and living with the regret, wondering how it would have played out. 

 

On the other side of fear are many things.  But one of the biggest drivers that always stops me from being afraid is this thing called regret.

 

I’ve made a lot of mistakes in my life, things I should have handled better.  But I don’t regret them.  I’ve had great moments, even if they didn’t end well.

 

I’ve learned from everything and tried to become a better person because of it.

 

I’m going to go in and do my absolute best, control what I can, learn everything I can, and give it my all.  I cannot control everything, and I won’t try to.

 

Just a thought.

 

Get around some good, positive, like-minded people.

 

I’m not the first to say this, and I definitely won’t be the last.

 

I’ve learned years ago to go where you’re celebrated, not where you’re tolerated. I’m so focused on positivity and progression that I don’t go around people who would drag that down.

 

Life is hard enough as it is, and you don’t need to make it any harder with being around negative minds because you will eventually and most likely consume what you’re around.

 

Whatever your dream is, get around people who have done it before.  Get around people who actually know what they’re talking about it.

 

Use your resources.  With technology nowadays, you can find almost anybody’s work, and most importantly, their interviews. Get out there and tap into how other people think.

 

Your brain is one of the greatest gifts you have.

 

And the one thing about humans is that if you can see it and understand it, you can achieve and create your own version of it.

 

Get around some good people, keep learning, keep reading, and keep growing.